{"id":6620,"date":"2025-01-09T16:47:29","date_gmt":"2025-01-10T00:47:29","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sites.evergreen.edu\/ltc\/?p=6620"},"modified":"2025-01-09T16:48:13","modified_gmt":"2025-01-10T00:48:13","slug":"on-my-soapbox-from-michael-wallis-january-2025","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sites.evergreen.edu\/ltc\/2025\/01\/on-my-soapbox-from-michael-wallis-january-2025\/","title":{"rendered":"On My Soapbox from Michael Wallis | January 2025"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Michael Wallis is the Student Learning Consultant for The Washington Center. His collaborative services are available to faculty who wish to improve the equity and student learning focus of their curricula.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Compassionate Goal-Setting<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

January is a troublesome time for self-compassion. The almost dissociative positivity of \u201cNew Year\u2019s Resolutions\u201d frequently resolve into self-actualized negativity via unsustainable lifestyle changes that fail to meet goals created with truly unkind and unrealistic expectations in mind. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This year, my new year\u2019s resolution is to eliminate the \u201cuns\u201d. What would it look like if I held a little bit of self-compassion in my heart before I went and tried to rearrange my whole biz?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In Onward: Cultivating Emotional Resilience in Educators<\/em>, Elena Aguilar taught me that self-compassion is one of the keys to resilience. It is the way that we not only wish ourselves the best, but take actions\u2013for the sake of being kind\u2013that intend to reduce our own suffering. Through self-compassion, we find value in routines and rituals, setting healthy boundaries, letting go of old mistakes, and seeking out time with the people we love. Self-compassion is the language of rest, and without speaking that language in your heart your resting cannot be effective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Using self-compassion, what would it look like to build more sustainable, kind and realistic goals? What would my new year\u2019s resolutions look like with the routines and rituals, boundaries, forgiveness of mistakes, and the people I love built into their foundations?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, let\u2019s analyze one and see if we can\u2019t improve it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of my goals for this year is to get up at the same time every morning and have enough time to eat breakfast, shower, and do a bit of reading before I leave the house. Ideally, that would be about 5:30am for my schedule. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, I know myself, and I know that getting out of bed at 5:30am every morning feels impossible right now. Step one, then, is to forgive myself for all the mornings I haven\u2019t gotten up on time (and all of the mornings that I will<\/em> fail to get up on time\u2013 let\u2019s be realistic). Then, I need to set boundaries. I won\u2019t expect myself to be perfect every day. I won\u2019t try to start this habit all at once\u2013 maybe one day a week to start. I\u2019ll set up rituals\u2013 coffee will brew while I shower, I\u2019ll set my book and my mug on the table, and I\u2019ll have a soft blanket ready for those cold mornings. I\u2019ll lean on my loved ones\u2013 the ones that live in my house\u2013 to help me keep to this routine. My girlfriend can help me stay accountable at getting to bed in time for a good night\u2019s sleep. My dog and cat need their morning meal, too, and the dog needs to go outside. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This sounds pretty basic as far as morning routines go, but it will be a big change. Writing it all out, though, I can see that every part of it is built on self-compassion. Eventually, it will stop feeling like work. It will feel like rest. Much better rest than that extra hour of interrupted sleep where I snooze my alarm every 10 minutes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having self-compassion is much more than simply speaking affirmations in the bathroom mirror. It\u2019s not a feeling, it\u2019s an active process; you can plan for it, and you don\u2019t have to do it alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re anything like me, then that is a comforting idea. <\/p>\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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