I don\u2019t remember how old I was, maybe I was eleven. Maybe older, but I was young. I was walking home from middle school and it was spring time, the walk home wasn\u2019t that far but I hadn\u2019t eaten all day and I needed something to drink. There was a fast food restaurant that everyone thought had shut down but just had bad business right at the bottom of the hill I lived on. I knew it wouldn\u2019t be a good idea to walk up a three block hill so dehydrated and walked into the restaurant. I\u2019m sure I got food, I was a growing girl, and I sat down to think about whatever boy problems I was having at that age without the interruption of my everyday life. There wasn\u2019t anyone in the restaurant and the woman who took my order sat down a few seats away from me and stared as I meekly ate my fries under the pressure of her gaze. She was an old woman, dark hair, skin hanging off of her face and the restaurant\u2019s uniform made the color look surreal in juxtaposition to the royal blue visor on her head. I tried to eat quickly and avoid eye contact but eventually I gave up on eating and got up to throw away what I would to have liked to eat but she stopped me before I could pass her table. \u201cWhat are you?\u201d She asked with no hesitation. My first instinct then is what my first instinct is now which is to ask, \u201cWhy the fuck is that any of your business?\u201d But I opened my mouth and let out a defeated sigh, \u201cWell, I don\u2019t know, my mom is White and my dad is Black.\u201d She nodded and said, \u201cOkay,\u201d as if I needed her approval to be breathing and I left slightly stunned by the experience. As soon as I got home I went upstairs to my dad\u2019s office and relayed the story with added emphasis on how perturbed I was that someone would feel comfortable asking me that. My dad loves talking to me about being Black, it\u2019s one of his very favorite subjects. There\u2019s a pride there when his eyes gleam and he talks about the tone of his skin; he sees being Black as a blessing. I\u2019ve always been confused about my body, my skin color changes every time I go out into the sun. My skin color to me matches the shade of a new tree planted in a crowded city. But I do remember him looking me in my eyes, I remember that my eyes matched his and a sense of familiarity warmed me. He said, \u201cIf anyone asks what you are, you tell them that you\u2019re Black.\u201d<\/p>\n
Being Black to me is more than my skin color, I know that I\u2019m light skinned (I\u2019ve been \u201cjokingly\u201d called high yellow all of my life), and maybe judging solely off of that I would be \u201cpassing\u201d but I have those <\/i>features. The controversial ones, the type of body that everyone on the TV was taking diet pills to avoid, the lips that I would see on a someone doing Blackface. I had the features my barbies were always missing, there\u2019s an aisle in every store with products that promise they can fix my hair and I can say I\u2019ve invested in almost every one. They\u2019re all the same – my body is undeniably Black and because it is Black it is political.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s never been a secret in my life. I don\u2019t remember the first time my mom or dad sat me down and said, \u201cNow, Gabriella, you\u2019re Black and here\u2019s what that means,\u201d it was more like an ongoing discourse between my family members. I do, however, remember the first time it became real to me. I was probably six or seven years old and my family was living in White Center, a suburb a few miles away from Seattle. My brother had a best friend who lived across the street from my Grandma\u2019s house, I\u2019m not sure what his name was, probably something like Aaron. CJ (my brother), and Aaron really hit it off, I mean the kid was over at our house all of the time playing video games. They would walk to and from school together and I remember thinking he was so much softer than the rest of my brother\u2019s rowdy friends. My mother, however, would speak in hushed tones about how his mother was racist, about how CJ could never go to Aaron\u2019s house. Then one day CJ came home upset which wasn\u2019t unusual, but then he told us what happened. CJ was walking home from school and he passed the Aaron\u2019s house. His mom was in the driveway and he told my mother that she just started driving at him. Fortunately he ran out of the way in time and wasn\u2019t harmed but it was the first time I had heard of someone hurting someone just because they looked like my brother and me. I couldn\u2019t believe that that had happened to someone I loved, I didn\u2019t want to believe it, I thought it was mistake. But Frantz Fanon captured my sentiments exactly, \u201cI was not mistaken. It was hatred; I was hated, detested, and despised, not by my next-door neighbor or a close cousin, but by an entire race. I was up against something irrational (p. 97).<\/p>\n
Race is something I\u2019ve always been conscious of but I had to ignore it for a while. Growing up Black and having primarily White friends really did something sick to my psyche because I started to see other Black people as beautiful but me as flawed. I saw the beauty in my family members but I was lighter than them but then there was everyone else, skinny, White, short, nothing like me. No one pointed out that I was Black to me, race wasn\u2019t a topic of conversation amongst my friends (who were primarily White \u201cskater boys\u201d who, when race was brought up called me a \u201cmutt\u201d and told me to stop talking); I couldn\u2019t find any reflection of myself, not in the books I read or shows I watched, there was nothing of myself. I was experiencing dysphoria but not consciously, I didn\u2019t know where the roots of the resentment I was feeling where and no one really helped me with that. I had my father of course, to tell me stories of growing up in Louisiana in the 50\u2019s when the land was so flat he thought he could see the curve of the earth and he couldn\u2019t\u2019ve drank out of the same water fountain as my mother but that all felt so removed from where I was standing. I couldn\u2019t believe that being Black in America could be psychologically damaging, that it was something that persisted and wore down your morale with age.<\/p>\n
But then I got older and the things my father had always told me about being Black were suddenly coming into play in my own life. Like being watched when I walked around the store with my cousin, or being stopped by police officers just for them to ask what I was doing walking down the street. Men started to tell me, again, that I \u201cwasn\u2019t like other Black girls\u201d and that they liked <\/i>me for that. They compared me to my people and told me I was an outsider still and expected me to take it as a compliment. Then there were the men who treated me like they treated other Black women, backing me into corners and telling me they\u2019re going to fuck me, following me off of the bus and talking about my body as I walked away. Those men treated me like an object whereas the former type of man treated me like an animal – I learned to see the difference. To add to the mess were the White women – friends, friends of friends, strangers off of the street, just White Women – approaching me and touching my hair without permission because they\u2019ve always wanted to know what \u201cmy kind of hair\u201d feels like. Their obsession with Blackness mixed with the fact that they would evade the subject of Blackness all together was almost as sickening as their anecdotes about being seven and wishing they had an afro. But then their mother told them that they were beautiful the way they were. And they had a whole society to back them up on that.<\/p>\n
The resentment grew and grew until I stopped going to school and stopped leaving the house. I still wasn\u2019t sure what the cause of my complete disinterest in society was about, it was hindering me but I felt like I was grasping at straws when trying to figure out why. I knew that what I was experiencing with people – the comments on my body, on my identity – all of the words said to me were a part of my life that wouldn\u2019t go away. Racism was never presented to be as solvable, but simply a fundamental part of Western society which has caused it to thrive. But it didn\u2019t feel real. I wasn\u2019t an \u201cOther\u201d in Tacoma; light skin Black girls weren\u2019t an oddity, White people were. The idea of \u201cThe Rich Man\u201d was more exotic than my hair.<\/p>\n
One day I got bored and applied to Evergreen, I got in, and then moved to Olympia. My brother went to Evergreen and he tried to warn me in so many words but I didn\u2019t really get it. He told me by my Junior year I would be ready to leave and never come back. I made friends easily enough however by week three of my first quarter I was crying on the phone to my cousin explaining that I needed to leave Olympia immediately. See, being Black in Olympia feels a lot like telling a joke that no one understands; there\u2019s a strong sense of \u201cWhy did I just do that?\u201d mixed with, \u201cWhy don\u2019t these people get it?\u201d Evergreen is considered liberal because of the fact that they\u2019ll allot a $5000 a quarter budget to the Shellfish Club not because of their diversity. I\u2019m pretty sure that I know the majority of the Black people on campus and we wave and smile at each other like we\u2019re beacons of hope. It doesn\u2019t matter whether it\u2019s intentional or not I\u2019m almost always the token Black friend simply because there are so few of us. Every time I walk onto campus I know I\u2019m going to be witness to something upsetting, someone is going to say something to me that offends me, and that I\u2019m going to want to go home as soon as I can. It seems pessimistic but I can safely say that it\u2019s true. It\u2019s hard to continue going to school when you know most encounters you have will be psychologically damaging.<\/p>\n
Then I went to Europe.<\/p>\n
Now, while I was there my head was occupied dealing with the fact that I had to speak another language and that I was far away from home and I didn\u2019t fully recognize the way I was being treated and why. There were a couple incidents where shopkeepers wouldn\u2019t look at me or speak to me, a French drug dealer referring to Black people solely as \u201cniggers\u201d, and all of the street harassment was jarring but I thought it wasn\u2019t out of the norm for me. When I got back from France I read a book, Black Skin, White Masks, <\/i>by Frantz Fanon which completely changed my perception of what I experienced not just in France, but back at home.<\/p>\n
In chapter five, The Lived Experience of the Black Man <\/i>Fanon begins recounting the remarks he\u2019d received simply walking through the streets of Paris and how raw they made him feel. When a young child with their Mother cried, \u201cLook, Maman, look, a negro!\u201d and the mother responded with, \u201cSsh! You\u2019ll make him angry. Don\u2019t pay attention to him, monsieur, he doesn\u2019t realize you\u2019re just as civilized as we are,\u201d Fanon was at a loss. He wrote:<\/p>\n
My body was returned to me spread-eagled, disjointed, redone, draped in mourning on this White winter\u2019s day. The Negro is an animal, the Negro is bad, the Negro is wicked, the Negro is ugly; look, a Negro; the Negro is trembling, the Negro is trembling because he\u2019s cold, the small boy is trembling because he\u2019s afraid of the Negro, the Negro is trembling with cold, the cold that chills the bones, the lovely little boy is trembling because he thinks the Negro is trembling with rage, the little White boy runs to his mother\u2019s arms: \u201cMaman, the Negro\u2019s going to eat me.\u201d<\/p>\n
The White man is all around me; up above the sky is tearing at its navel; the earth crunches under my feet and sings White, White. All this Whiteness burns me to a cinder. (p. 93)<\/p>\n
That sensation of being gawked at, of having your body discussed and ridiculed by strangers, even children <\/i>was something I had experienced over and over. When I was in Galway at a coffee shop, a child hid behind her father and began crying and when he asked why she pointed at me. She was confused and her father was embarrassed but I just wanted coffee. Even with all of my knowledge of the politics of being Black I still don\u2019t expect my body to be verbally mangled when I\u2019m simply trying to be. <\/i>All I wanted was coffee. Fanon writes a lot about wishing to simply be able to exist without the ignorance of others constantly bombarding him and my wishes for myself aren\u2019t far off.<\/p>\n
So, how do I feel about being myself? About being Black? I see myself in Spirits Swirl by Levoy Exil in 1991. He\u2019s an artist from Haiti who used abstraction to capture dysphoria.<\/p>\n
In the center is a Black girl, in a circle that resembles the sun, but with eyes. Around her women surround her, twisting around each other with their languid, brightly colored bodies. The girl in the center is visually overwhelmed by the activity outside of her bubble. All of the eyes in the painting are staring at the viewer, there\u2019s a flatness to their faces and bodies and yet one feels as if they could plunge into the scene if one looks too closely. It\u2019s ghostly and mystical but not in a horror film way; the figures around her are spirituality and ancestry floating around this Black woman constantly. Her ancestors call to her, and even though she appears intimidated, there\u2019s also a sense of openness and possession as the spirits reach for her.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s the best way I can describe what it feels like to be me. My history doesn\u2019t just follow me around the store, I carry my Blackness in my heart every day. I make sure not to forget my history, to stand up for the people who died in the process of making it so I could attend schools and apply eyeliner in the same bathroom as my White friends. Despite the process of demonization we\u2019ve experienced, despite slavery and other forms of systematic racism that hinder my daily life, I\u2019m still inclined to agree with my father. Being Black has given me a valuable perspective on the world and features I have grown to admire in myself. And I\u2019m proud of that. If anyone asks me what I am, I tell them I\u2019m Black.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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